Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Ruby was my cousin. She was the third grandchild of our grandparents, pake and beppe Oosterkamp. I was the second. Ruby carried beppe's name: Roelofje. She was very proud of that. We are about the same age, Ruby was born in December 1957, I was born in july that year. We met the first time when we were children. We were about 7 at the time. She was in Holland with her mother visiting the family. Communication was hard. I did not speak English, she spoke a little Fries and Dutch and a mixture of those two languages. The second time we met was in 1973 when I visited the US for the first time. We got to know each other well and we shared things, like music. Three years later Ruby came to Holland and joined our family for a vacation in the south of France. We wrote letters for a long time. But eventually the contact faded. Until somewhere around the year 2000 when Ruby and Bethany came to Holland for a Christian Convention and paid us a visit. From that time on the contact was renewed and instead of writing letters, we sent e-mails. We wrote about our children and about our work. Ruby was a teacher/administrator and I am an administrator too. I got impressed by her rock solid faith in God even when cancer struck her for the first time. In 2007 Ruby came to Holland with Dinah and her parents for the family-reunion. We met again and Marjan and I decided to go to the US and we visited the Romako's for the first time a year after. In the mean time our daughter Annelies had also paid a visit to the family. We were all warmly welcomed and Ruby made us feel at home. The last time Ruby and I met was in April this year. I was in NYC with 24 colleagues and could not go home because of the ashcloud of this Icelandic volcano. I said to my colleagues I want to take this opportunity to visit my cousin Ruby, who is ill, maybe it is the last time I see her. It was nice seeing each other again. We made plans for Mark and Ruby to come over to Holland for the family reunion of 2010, but as it appeared, that April, really turned out to be the last time we would meet
We will remember Ruby as a wonderful, warm, caring person, who had a great sense of humour, and who was always truly interested in what other people were doing. We wish Mark and the children, as well as Oom Marcus and tante Aukje and Dinah, Henry, John, Marcus and Audrey, God's comfort to deal with this great loss.
Jan, Marjan, Annlies and DirkJan